About Us: Casey + MCB, Married 9 Years.

It’s that time again.  Our anniversary week is in full effect and you know what that means.  I’ve asked some of my favorite bloggers and their spouses to stop over and to share some words on marriage.  Sit back and relax all week while they charm the pants off of you!

I am so excited for this one!  Casey {wearing Roozle as a baby in the pic} is an absolute force of positive energy.  We ‘met’ on Twitter and bonded over the fact that both of us are ironing-challenged, thankfully we both married well or we’d be wrinkled messes.  She is a blogger living in Boston with her wife and their four year old daughter Roozle.  Life rules isn’t just her tag line, she means it and that zeal and confidence comes through in her writing.  This year she was one of the keynote speakers at BlogHer Voices of the Year.

How many years have you been a couple & who liked whom first?

We've been together for 10 years. We met at a protest in 2003 on the first day of the war with Iraq. We were both there with our ex-girlfriends and saw each other from far away. I followed her for a few blocks, checking her out. I know now that she was checking me out too, but her ex started to get jealous and put her arm around her which made me think they were together so I left. Feeling encouraged by a super cute girl sighting, I went to a lesbian bar the following week. When I walked in, MCB was there, telling her friend all about seeing a cute girl (me) and how her ex messed it up. Mid-sentence, I arrived, and she pointed and said, "THAT'S HER!" but her friend quieted her quickly so I didn't notice. She came up to me later that night and we talked and danced and exchanged numbers. It all happened really fast after that. 

What has being married taught you?

Marriage has taught me how to just hold tight. Sometimes a moment feels awful and frustrating and terrible, but if you just hold tight, it often fades away. It's almost like living with a toddler: you need to pick your battles. There is a lot that goes into two people's actions. Intentions, past experiences, current experiences. I try really hard to focus on that and not be too sensitive to the moment. This lesson has worked well outside of our marriage as well. 

What is the most fun thing the two of you have ever done together?

The most fun thing we've done together has definitely been creating this little family of ours. We have a great time together. Our daughter is exceptionally silly and the three of us are always laughing.

How do you resolve issues?  Do you ever go to bed angry?

We try to have fun and see the good in situations. It doesn't always work, but we try. We have definitely gone to bed angry a few times in the last 10 years, but work really hard not to. 

What is the secret to a happy marriage?

The secret to all happiness is low expectations. Marriage is not excluded from this. When you don't expect much, everything that happens feels like the best day ever. It rules.