13 August 2012

About Us: Jennie + Mike, Married 5 Years.

The Davester and I have the seven year itch.  That’s right.  SEVEN years of wedded bliss.  {Total lie, marriage is hard work, yo.}  While we’re celebrating our anniversary this week, I’ve asked some of my favorite bloggers and their husbands to share some words on marriage.

I met Jennie when she featured my mom’s birthday dinner on her blog Style Lush.  She is the creator and editor of Style Lush and its spin off, Food Lush.   Her personal blog She Likes Purple, chronicles life with Mike and their adorable son Kyle, recipes, running info, travel, and just daily Jennie. 

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How many years have you been a couple & who liked whom first?

We've been together eight years and we were pretty indifferent to each other for a couple years. (Isn't that how all great love stories start? With indifference.) Anyway, we had a mutual friend in common so we saw each other at get-togethers and birthdays and things like that and then one night, everything changed. He bought me a drink, so I say he liked me first, but he would want it noted I made the first move. (Although, of course, I want it noted the kiss probably only happened because of the drink.) 

What has being married taught you?

Somewhat cliche but compromise. We're a true opposites-attract couple, so we have to meet in the middle a lot of the time. It's made us better individuals and better together, I think. Mike also said that it's taught him he couldn't be married to anyone but me, which is really sweet, but also true. He totally lucked out with me. ;-)

What is the most fun thing the two of you have ever done together?

Mike said travel. It's easily our greatest relationship passion, and our greatest trip was our honeymoon, 10 beautiful, relaxing days in St. John. While I completely agree with Mike (I love travel even more than he does, I think), I said the most fun has been becoming parents together (we have a three-year-old son, Kyle). Our little team of three is a whole lot of fun.

How do you resolve issues?  Do you ever go to bed angry?

We fight, just like everyone, but I think one thing that's gotten us through arguments (even the bad ones) is that we never name call or put the other down and we try really hard to keep the fight about the fight (and not about every fight that's come before). Also, yes yes yes we go to bed angry. We have a kid, so we sleep when we can, even if it's angry sleep.

What is the secret to a happy marriage?

I really like Mike, which seems obvious, but I just think he's a great, funny, incredible guy and no matter how crazy he drives me, my life has him in it, period, so I'd prefer that life to be as happy as possible. I think we're also pretty great at giving the other space to pursue individual passions. Again, opposites attracted here, but we're both really supportive in our individual hobbies. Mike races motorcycles and plays in the garage; I blog, read, and run races. We both cheer the other on, even if we don't necessarily identify with the passion. We also put our marriage first as often as possible. Kyle (our son) can only benefit from two happy parents.

5 comments:

  1. This is great. I love your answers, Jennie! My husband and I recently had a conversation in which I said that if we shouldn't be satisfied with a mediocre marriage: if we're going to be married, we should work for the happiest marriage we can, so I completely identify with that part of your last answer. And the part about sleeping when you can - so true. =D

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  2. As someone in a total opposites attract relationship, I am so happy to hear others say it's okay to have your own "stuff." Awesome, awesome. Great answers!

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